Happy New Year! I hope your holiday season was swell. I, for one, am glad to be back in our usual routine though this first week has felt exceptionally long. As previously mentioned, I am a huge fan of setting New Year’s resolutions and goals. And while I have plenty of those this year, I took it a step further this year by also thinking about what “rules” I would give myself for living well in 2016. New Year’s resolutions for mothers, in a sense. Here’s what I came up with:
- Be mindful of what comes into your home. Clutter is one of my biggest stumbling blocks when it comes to maintaining a tidy home. I’ve found it helpful to just not bring things home in the first place. This goes for buying things that I could really survive without or accepting free things that I don’t really need. I recently came across an old post on Gretchen Rubin’s blog about the 27 most important rules for keeping your house in order (that’s some evergreen content right there). Worth a read, and if you want to keep up with any other gems I find online, be sure you’re following me on Twitter.
- Use your library card, and otherwise be a good steward of your money. I’ve fallen into a bad habit of just buying books because it’s slightly easier than borrowing. But this a) leads to piles of stuff (the actual books, plus the packaging it arrives in), and, b) deprives me of the opportunity to support my public library (which, having been to library school, is actually something I feel passionately about). It’s really not the best use of my money.
- Write for yourself. If I were a superhero, words would be my superpower. Words are my thing. Writing them, indexing them, wrangling them into digestible bits of information. I don’t want to sound like a tortured soul, but I’m a better person when I’m writing. And more specifically, when I’m writing a lot. It’s easy for me to get so focused on client work that I forget to write just for fun, and then writing, regardless of what I’m writing about, becomes a whole lot less enjoyable. I don’t want that. I’m committing to writing more words, just for the heck of it.
- Live your truth without apologies. My life, for better or for worse, doesn’t look like anyone else’s. I’m grateful for that. I think, in this world of over-connectivity, it’s easy to get sucked into the idea that my reality is one that should be pitted against my peers. But what is there to gain? In 2016 I want to keep my eyes on my own paper, so to speak.
- Build routines, even especially when you don’t want to. I thrive in routine, but I am incredibly resistant to starting them. A certain routine will sound like a good idea to me, but when it comes time to repeat it for the twelfth time, my inclination is to say, “ugh, this again?” and make up an excuse to skip it (“I’m really tired. It doesn’t really matter if I wipe down the kitchen counters before bed.”). Except it does matter to me later on (when I wake up to a dirty kitchen or when I have to dig through a pile of laundry to find something clean to wear). I think I’ve gotten a lot better at forcing myself to do things repeatedly to the point where it eventually becomes second nature, but there’s always room for improvement.
- Keep your home smelling like lemons. A few months ago I had this sudden realization that I wanted my home to smell like lemons. Lemons are fresh, clean, and energizing. Not a bad vibe for your home, right? “Clean” is subjective, and maybe impossible to achieve with a toddler tornado and four (hairy) pets, but the smell of lemons? That’s a clear yes or no. Despite my best efforts, my home does not always smell like lemons. Sometimes it smells like trash that needs to be taken out, but this gives me a clear destination to work towards.
- Be kind. Both to myself and to others. I think if there’s one thing we can all agree about the current state of the world is that it needs more kindness. I’m not likely to achieve world peace by speaking more gently to my husband or not laying on the horn when someone cuts me off while driving, but it couldn’t hurt. Ripple effects and all that.